Monday, January 10, 2011

A Year of Self Kindness...


I've deemed 2011 my year of self kindness.  Perhaps I should urge you to do the same.
Like most young women, (and women in general), I am usually at the bottom of the priority list.  I make sure that everyone else in the house is taken care of, have what they need, and I typically do without.  By the time December hit, I felt totally burnt out...I realize that I'm overweight, unhealthy, angry, impatient and just plain "fried".  I was haunted by the image of my own father, who died from a fatal heart attack, (this heart attack came after a prior heart attack years earlier...he refused to go see a doctor, or get healthier).  Needless to say, I'm having what we call a "mid thirties crisis", or what I like to call "a wake up"!

Now, if you're wondering what a new hat has to do with this journey of self kindness, I'll tell you!
I've knit everyone in my family a hat...including my own mother...I even knit her a scarf to match.  I decided that I am worthy of a lovely hand knitted hat myself, and so I took my best yarn and knitted myself the hat of my dreams.  I have been wanting a "slouchy" hat for some time now...here it is slouchy...


And here it is as a tight fitting hat, with the rim rolled up!


I LOVE my new hat.  If you're wondering what I used it was 2 balls of Noro...Silk Garden, Colour No 211.
I have been hanging onto this for about a year now...thinking it was too nice to just make a hat out of.

Oh...we are so silly sometimes.  So, this year I urge you to take some time out to take care of yourself.  I've realized that the old saying is so true...if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. 
I'm thinking of starting a self kindness link every Monday...I hope you'll join me!  It will be a space where you can link to your own posts about being kind to yourself...let's start a revolution mamas!

Here's to a brand spankin' New Year!!!
xox maureen

36 comments:

  1. Good for you! It is hard to take the time for ourselves, that is for sure.

    The hat is beautiful!

    Cheers,
    Tricia

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  2. what a beautiful post, thank you for sharing your heart through your writing. it is so easy to forget ourselves in the midst of mothering, i appreciate the words you chose to describe this and the way you are going about this mama revolution! xo

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  3. What a fantastic idea... I'll surely join you on Mondays if you run with this idea :)

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  4. You Go lovely mama ! I understand that need- what i have also realized approaching 40 is that as women our lack of ability to prioritize ourselves is not viewed as self less- but rather sad... it made my children sad to see me do without-- it doesn't mean that others don't come first-- they do and probably always will-- but we deservet oat least make the list-- and that's a great place to start! i'm in ! i would love to share in the mondays if you do them ...
    light and peace to you Maureen x0x0

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  5. I needed to hear this today. I don't think I can even express how badly I needed to hear it.

    LOVE your new hat!

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  6. What a beautiful hat! I love the surprise that is involved when choosing Noro....
    Happy new year.
    Hooray for Mondays.

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  7. sounds like a lovely idea! love the hat too!

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  8. Good for you! Sounds like a great new years resolution and I really like your hat. Looks very pretty!

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  9. I've been feeling this for quite awhile. I'm totally with you! It may be time to nurture me for awhile!
    Thanks for sharing!

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  10. beautiful hat - and your eyes too! : ) i'm glad you've had this 'wake up.' one of my closest friends, a wonderful amazing angel of a woman, who always put everyone else before her at home and at work (she was a special ed. teacher) died of a heart attack at 43 years old. it is good you are listening to your intuition and taking time for YOU. we all need to.

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  11. Love this idea. Count me in!!

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  12. Love your hat and your plans for the year ahead. Fabulous!

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  13. Nice one, girl. Hat AND post. Couldn't have come at a better time for me, as I've just decided about an hour ago that sometimes, on the odd occasion, it should be about MOI for a change rather than everybody else.
    I came home today afte a ten- hour shift to a grumpy man who could hardly even look up from the pc, mumbling something about vaccing up earlier and how exhausted he was.
    Yeah. Try ten hours of constant stress in the bookies and then tell me again, won't ya. I'm in a bad mood and I actually feel good about it. Ha!

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  14. yes do it! Love the hat. You deserve it. I like to use the best art materials I can find, and cut expensive materials up to make clothes for me....we deserve it!

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  15. wonderful! I am getting pretty good at the self kindness thing- and still am yet to make myself anything. So I'll move that up the list. FIrst on the list this year is to read a book. Not a parenting book. Not a homeschool book. Not a cook book, or a save the world book. A good old fashion historical fiction. The kind I used to devour. And I love the idea of a once a week reminder. I'm in.

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  16. Hats off to you! For venturing inwards, yet sharing it outwards. And forward. All are the right directions for finding centre. But don't be taking that hat *you* knit off. It is DIVINE.

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  17. That wool is beautiful. Bright colours are so nice in the winter.

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  18. Love the hat. I could do with a push on the old "thinking about me" front. So count me in. Although I won't be making a hat. Never found one that suits me. If I spent time making one and then found it did't suit me then it would undo all the good! Totally gutting!

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  19. My first thought: beautiful eyes! Followed closely by, "love that hat!!" Good for you. Like you, I knit stuff for everyone around me. Tonight I cast on a pair of socks for ME, in a ridiculously expensive but gorgeous Noro sock yarn...they may be too pretty to wear, but I'll wear 'em, because I'm worth it, dahling! You are too...gorgeous and wonderful.

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  20. Yes one often forgets to be gentle on oneself. cheers Marie

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  21. I've had a similar thought lately, that it would be worth it to be creative for myself, just for the sake of it, and decided to start drawing again (because I love to), instead of only doing practical, "useful" creative things.

    I love the hat!

    and because it's so timely, this would be my link if you had started this Monday (if you don't mind me posting it)
    http://verdemama.blogspot.com/2011/01/sleeping-ayla-sketch.html

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  22. wow, I actually thought the first photo was Ruby! not only are your eyes gorgeous, they are very very young looking ;)
    I would love to be a part of the monday thread.

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  23. Oh, yay for you!!! That hat is fab, and you deserve it!! Love the idea of self-kindness. Looking forward to more!

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  24. I think you got a wonderful idea, and I will be happy to follow!
    I've just started knitting; I've started something which I really don't know how long it's going to be, probably a scarf, so I'd practice. It's nothing much.. and while knitting I told myself... next thing I knit, it will be for me! with everything I've done for other this holidays (all my gifts were handmade) I thought I'd deserve it.
    I really need to treat myself better as well.

    You have beautiful eyes and that hat is equally gorgeous!

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  25. Such an important concept, that so easily slips into a domestic abyss.

    I look forward to joining you on Monday.

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  26. I wish I had the courage to follow your footsteps. I have intentions of taking care of me.. but I always find some reason not to. :/

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  27. That sounds like a Jolly Good Idea :0)

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  28. I am so with you. My word of the year is "Me," a word to always come back to. The question that I keep sitting with this Summer is "what do I want to do right now?" Learning to hear my wants and needs amongst the the daily tasks and others' wants and needs is stretching me in new ways.

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  29. You probably don't need another comment but you are right and I agree! I find it hard to give myself permission to take a break, replenish, be ok. I feel like I'm not trying unless I'm completely wiped out. I know it isn't so but...a reminder always helps!

    LOVE your hat too, just fabulous!

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  30. Wow!Maureen you have such beautiful eyes...and the hat ain't so bad neither! ;) I have the tendency to give, give, give and then fall flat on my face...freak out...and collapse with exhaustion and resentment. Here's to a New Year and a better balance in our lives! Love you! ox

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  31. It's nice that so many of you mamas out there can relate to what I'm saying! And I liked what someone said...this isn't about neglecting anyone elses needs, it's just about putting yourself on the map...recognizing yourself as a person who is "worthy" of some love! I hope some of you will join me next Monday on this journey! Give yourself a permission slip this week to do something wonderful for YOU!!!!
    xox maureen

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  32. what a great idea!!!! thanks for posting so honestly. The hat and your eyes are gorgeous! Would you mind posting the pattern you used? Please and thank you!

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  33. What a great hat, and a perfect new year's resolution! Make sure you don't forget it! :)

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  34. Congratulations! It took me until I was about 50 before I realized that I AM IMPORTANT TOO! You are so on the right track and the first step was making that hat for you instead of someone else because you were saving the yarn. Not that you should become self-centered, just take time for yourself.

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  35. Shannon...I couldn't find an e-mail address on your blog, so I hope you'll come back here to see this! I sort of made up the pattern as I went along...for myself, (I have a huge head), I cast on 94 stitches on a 6mm circular needle. K2P2 for about 6 inches...or until you like it...and then moved onto knit stitch for the rest. I tried it on when it looked long enough and then started to slowly decrease my stitches.
    I hope that helps some.
    (I am notoriously bad at following patterns, and tend to just "wing it"...luckily this was a case when it worked out...some projects aren't so lucky!!)
    xo maureen

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  36. Oh, Beautiful & Marvelous Mama Maureen -- That was a wonderful post (and judging by the strongly voiced & voluminous response, you have struck a chord with many!) I, too, am guilty, guilty, guilty of taking care of everyone and putting myself at the bottom of the list (exhibit A: most of my friends & family members sport hand-knit mitts & hats made by yours truly... but I haven't knit anything for myself...)

    I hereby join your self-kindness & groovy hat revolution!

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